Dennis Hackethalhttps://blog.dennishackethal.com/Comments on post ‘Why Do Younger Women Typically Date Older Men?’ on Dennis Hackethal’s Blog2024-03-28T18:00:25+00:00Ante Skugor<p>I don’t know what you mean by we should change that. Any sort of planned mass intervention would be a disaster. People’s preferences should not be attempted to be steered in some direction. The best you can do, if you think a close enough person is making a mistake, is talk to them and express concern. If, on the other hand, you don’t like that there aren’t enough people who value depth of connection and that this makes it statistically less likely for you to find a desirable partner, you should not get involved with people who don’t meet that standard.</p>
https://blog.dennishackethal.com/posts/why-do-younger-women-typically-date-older-men#comment-543Comment 543 by Ante Skugor2023-02-02T21:15:30Z2023-02-02T21:15:30Zdennis<p>I agree that planned mass intervention would be a disaster – I’m a libertarian so I think that any such top-down attempt would be immoral anyway, let alone impossible. Instead, I was talking about slowly changing the culture from within.</p>
<p>Creating awareness of the issues as I’ve described them could be a start. Men could decide to pay less attention to beauty in women and instead value other traits more. Or they could both decide to deprioritize sex and dating in general.</p>
https://blog.dennishackethal.com/posts/why-do-younger-women-typically-date-older-men#comment-544Comment 544 by dennis2023-02-02T21:34:33Z2023-02-02T21:34:33ZAnte Skugor<p>But you’re still talking as if men are a homogenous, decision making entity. As if they’re an organism and individual men are the cells that constitute it. <br>
Trying to slowly change the culture from within sounds to me like some engineering project. And I think that engineering projects shouldn’t be attempted on people’s free choices. It’s the same thing socialists try when they say: “People aren’t donating to charity enough therefore we have to somehow make them do it more.”. The fact that they’re willing to use force is worse but your argument has the same structure. <br>
Whether or not a dating landscape that you’re imagining would be better or worse, I don’t know. But individuals shouldn’t be making choices based on what they think the dating market ought to look like. If there’s much more happiness, love and fun in paying less attention to beauty and such, then when they’re exposed to it people will naturally gravitate towards it.</p>
https://blog.dennishackethal.com/posts/why-do-younger-women-typically-date-older-men#comment-545Comment 545 by Ante Skugor2023-02-03T21:49:18Z2023-02-03T21:49:18Zdennis<p>I agree that engineering projects shouldn’t be attempted on people’s free choices. To be very clear, I think men would <em>benefit</em> from focusing less on women, but I’m not prepared to tell anyone what they should and should not do (unless they employ coercion).</p>
<p>You wrote:</p>
<blockquote><p>[I]ndividuals shouldn’t be making choices based on what they think the dating market ought to look like.</p>
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<p>Let’s see how this compares to other markets. Continuing with the car market, if someone is looking to buy a car but decides the market isn’t favorable at the moment, isn’t he right to wait until conditions improve? Or, if he decides not to participate in that market because he finds some fundamental flaws with it, isn’t he right to withdraw from it? And if the answer to both questions is ‘yes’, how is the dating market different?</p>
https://blog.dennishackethal.com/posts/why-do-younger-women-typically-date-older-men#comment-548Comment 548 by dennis2023-02-04T03:46:50Z2023-02-04T03:46:50ZAnte Skugor<p>What I meant by the comment that you cited was that an individual’s choice on how to behave in the dating market should not be guided by something like: “If I behave in a certain way it’s going to change the market in some specified way.” The same way that when buying a car it shouldn’t be: “I’m going to buy an electric car because it’s more environment friendly.”<br>
For what it’s worth, I found male-female relationships to be an amazing teaching tool for getting to know myself better. And that’s irrespective of the kind of people I meet on the dating market.</p>
https://blog.dennishackethal.com/posts/why-do-younger-women-typically-date-older-men#comment-549Comment 549 by Ante Skugor2023-02-07T20:38:08Z2023-02-07T20:38:08Z2024-03-28T18:00:25+00:00